Showing posts with label Singapore. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Singapore. Show all posts

Full Circle


I'm a true believer in hard work, good luck, ambition, faith and positive energy. Nothing is impossible. Happiness is always welcomed. Today, we leave Singapore and return to New York City. I made that first trip away from Chicago exactly 5 years ago, days after our wedding.

As I look out the window of our hotel room in Singapore, I can see our last apartment building...home for 6 months. I can see the gorgeous Marina Bay view and a stretch of Indonesia. I see the wonderful 5 years I have spent with my caring, devoted, intelligent husband, who loves us, works hard for us, laughs with us and inspires us. I can see the bright future ahead of us. Today is our anniversary and we are spending it with Diego and savouring a bottle of champagne (Diego only gets a bubbly bath!). We are celebrating life, love, health and good fortune and I'm not afraid to be happy.

See you in New York.

Lots of love,

Betty

Crunch Time


The first moving company came to do an evaluation on our things today. It's on! If the next company can also assure me that no pirates will seize my cargo...then it will be tough to pick the designated handlers. The time is really here and I'm getting very excited!
We had our Goodbye/4th of July theme party this weekend and it went really well. I had to stay sober because although Diego partied along with us, I knew he would be up at 7am the next morning! I was right! For our theme, Jose served American Glories, Cosmos, Budweiser and Casuelas and I made yummy guacamole, ceviche, salsas, quesadillas and a friend brought wings! It was very Tex-Mex at our American soiree! Most people wore red, white and/or blue and we listened to the best of American music.
Now I'm trying to sell small electronics that will not function in the States. I'm also emailing agents in NY as well as preschools. Not much time to write these days but feel its important for me to keep little notes of our events!
xoxo,
Betty

An Unexpected Journey

I know many Chicagoans who have never been up the Sears Tower. I know many New Yorkers who have never been to a Broadway performance. I also know many Tokyoites who have not been to Meiji Shrine. I guess when we live in a city we take for granted all the wonderful sights, landmarks and buildings that make our home-home. There is no need to do the tourist thing in your city because you will always be there and maybe you'll take out-of-town guests when the moment calls. Well now that I'm leaving...I woke up today feeling a bit crazed. The feeling of not having seen enough of Asia, let alone Singapore, in the past 6 months was making me anxious and sad. I have been thinking of what I can see and what I can do before we leave. Should I take my camera down to Little India or Arab Street? Should I work on the shots of Hawker Centers I have been meaning to take? I woke up to rain this morning so I pulled out the Singapore Resident's Guide and stopped at the museum pages. I went down the list and picked the Singapore Art Museum (SAM). Yay!
My goal is to do as much of Singapore or Asia in the weeks to come. Oh! How I would love to take a flight to Seoul, Beijing or Hanoi. But Jose is super busy and unless a girlfriend proposes we take the kids and go, I've got to reminisce on these writings, take a lot more photos or find other outlets. This is how today my experience at SAM gave me an outlook, emotions and inspiration I wasn't expecting from a museum built in an old school just a few blocks from our house.
St. Joseph Institution was a school for boys and was founded in 1855, has also served as a Red Cross Hospital, a unit of the Civil Defense Force, and is also considered a Singapore national monument and is now home to SAM.
When I stepped inside the beautiful white, colonial building I thought, "I have no knowledge of Asian Art" and immediately noticed an exhibition titled "TransportAsian" that included photography and light installations. My next thought? "Photography! Yes, I can learn a lot from photography!"
I was admiring an exhibition when I hear the ding of the Tokyo metro overhead announcement. I did a double take when I heard, "mamonaku..." What the...? Where am I? Behind a black curtain was a video installation titled "Pasajeros" YES in Spanish! Pasajeros is the work of Xavi Comas, a Spaniard who did this piece of work on the Tokyo subway. I went in, sat on the bench of the dark room and I was quickly transported back to Hibiya line in Japan. The black and white images are a journey. A journey captured by the artist and a flashback for me. I saw images of school children in their perfect Japanese uniforms, salarymen slouching over their briefcases and wrinkling their suits. I saw young Japanese girls in their notorious cute outfits and high heels. I saw the faces of tired, older men slumbering for a few minutes. I saw the faces of mothers struggling with the baby strollers on the crowded train. All images of people in the tight space. Faces and mannerisms that I saw many, many times in Tokyo. How many times did I wonder about their lives and how different and the same way we live our life? How many times did I wonder about their comings and goings as I sat and tried not to look like a total "gaijin" (foreigner)?
The journey was theirs. The everyday in and out of the routine in the transportation system that supports the life of these travellers and the people Comas caught in his "one meeting, one time", ichigo ichie as a 16th century tea master once said.
Xavi Comas summarized his work by explaining that for him, each meeting has to be savoured, remembered, and appreciated because it only comes one time. What better way to express this philosophy by using his lens. I sat there and watched the exhibit two times. A knot formed in my throat when I read ichigo ichie. Tears started to flow uncontrollably. Sitting all alone in this historic museum, I felt nostalgic and my heart ached as I came to terms with my departure from Asia. I was living my one moment. I have been living my one meeting , my one time. And I was realizing that it was quickly coming to an end.
Nevertheless, I felt inspired. I was grateful and fulfilled (but not too much in order to leave room for more). I decided not to take for granted any place and its moments and its people. I decided that the end of my travels through Asia were not done. I still have a lot of questions about the people of Bangkok, the ruins in Cambodia and the hustle and bustle of Shanghai. We will return one day and I will cherish every minute of it.
xoxo,
Betty

Going Home

It is time to dust the sand off my feet. It is time to let go of the “beach resort” attire and start dressing a bit more hip- get-with-the-trends-but- put-in-your-own- personal twist. Maybe I’ll finally get a pair of Manolos and wear them with my favorite Gap jeans and Hiroshima leather messenger bag. Perhaps I’ll buy a few more sunglasses because in New York City more people wear them than the locals here in sunny and hot year-round Singapore. It’s time to pack up again for a more permanent home this time.
That’s right people. We are MOVING back to New York City this summer.I can end the blog post right here because I really don’t know what to say.
Ha! You know that is not happening!
Everyone expects me to be happy and I really am. I’m relieved that the time is now and not some far off date that I cannot foresee. We have been living in Asia for 3 years and have answered a hundred times “I’m not really sure” to the question, “How long will you be in Japan/Singapore/Asia?” I feel like I can finally plan and live our life in a non-temporary fashion and dig out my beloved books and photographs that currently sit in some massive storage facility in Queens. I can stop planning 13 to 22 hour flights for weddings, summers and Christmas in Chicago.
I can now have a real hot dog, go to a Yankee game (and Cubs games!!! I can hear all of Chicago gasping) watch television on real time (watch television period) and be close to all my family and old, life-long friends. Our first runs will be to Danny’s Pizza in Queens, Blondie’s on the Upper West Side for real buffalo wings, Laila in Staten Island and Fela and Reza in Brooklyn. Diego will run in a real park-Central Park and visit museums with his new friends. I can take long strolls with my hubbie in SoHo and take our Chicago guests to see the Statue of Liberty. I will be able to understand the language again. I will be able to feel like I belong again (that’s another story-more on that later). But it is also time to reassess and figure out what I will do after the unpacking is done and the transition is over.
I am also sad and I think some friends and family don’t expect this emotion. It’s a feeling I really can’t explain to Jose, you or even myself. Someone recently told Jose that living abroad makes us a bit invisible. We always get to see outward and no one other than the bubble we have created with the people on the same boat can share the view with us. We are pardoned for not blending in with the locals and for always speaking too loud and for not understanding Japanese or Mandarin. We are forgiven for not slurping the noodles fast enough or not ordering the shark-fin soup. We don’t become involved with local politics or read the gossip on the tabloids (we have no idea who the people are)!
Amongst the “expat” world in Asia, many feel not to be living in reality as full-time-live-in-maids are hired, everything imaginable delivered to doorsteps, special events and shops designed for the foreign consumer and travelling the region is a hobby for many!! Living in this bubble keeps you wondering about your loved ones back home (and trying to keep up with them all), makes you less or more patriotic, makes you see the ugly and the pretty of your home country. Makes you see what the rest of the world is thinking and saying. Makes you miss Honey Nut Cheerios, Twinkies and Chex Mix. Makes you realize who your friends are and makes you find your old stomping grounds again.
To say that Asia has given me moments, memories and experiences is an understatement. Asia has given me my son, new passions, new life-long friends, courage, adventure, patience and compassion. It has allowed Jose and I to endure our early years of marriage alone, to be our best friends and confidants, to see Mt. Fuji, the Borneo Elephant, The Sydney Opera House, and feel the energy in Hong Kong, the sun in Thailand and love in Indonesia… together.
I know more, unknown experiences in America are to come. It is a country people plan to visit and dream to live in. We are so, so lucky to go home.
Now, what will I do with my blog?? Stay tuned as I reflect some more in the weeks to come!
Xoxo,
Betty

A Little Visit



Dear Ms. Rachel,
We hope you had a wonderful flight. Below is the itinerary for your stay at Hotel Galvan-Singapore. Your complete comfort and relaxation is our utmost priority. We cannot express enough how delighted we are that you have chosen our hotel for your holiday in paradise.
Your holiday starts off with a trip to Spa Botanica in Sentosa Beach via Taxi. You have a lovely Balinese Massage scheduled for Sunday, June 14th at 11:15am for the duration of 60 minutes. Your gorgeous friend Betty will be accompanying you and will receive a Swedish massage for the duration of 60 minutes (in the adjacent room per your request). A trip on the famous Cable Cars to view the skyline of Singapore is also scheduled after a grand lunch in Vivo City.
On Tuesday, June 16th at 10:00 am you will be headed to Great World City and visit the lovely Jantzen Salon to meet Singaporean Jenny who is an experienced "gaijin" hair technician. She will consult you before starting your color and cut and make sure that you entertain yourself with the weekly "glossies" while she primps and pampers you.
You have a delicious dinner scheduled on Saturday night at Amici Italian Restaurant in Holland Village. Due to unforeseen and last minute birthday celebration for our dear friend, Roisin, we needed to postpone the famous Chili Crab night at the Palm Beach restaurant for Tuesday night. We hope this change in schedule does not inconvenience you dear guest. You will have a splendid time with our fabulous Irish, English, and Australian friends (plus you will have rocking hair for the chili crabs on Tuesday night).
Please do not hesitate to request changes to the itinerary. We are more than pleased to honor all that your heart pleases. Time has been allotted for plenty of sun, swims and shopping!
We hope you enjoy your stay.
Sincerely,
Betty Velasco-Galvan
President and CFO of Hotel Galvan-Singapore
P.s Your usual Sunshine Whole Grain Raisin Bread and Philadelphia Cream Cheese have been ordered.
Our chef is also working very hard to obtain the Original Chex Mix (always in high demand here in Singapore along with the Honey Nut Cheerios).

Let's Play, "Find the Mistakes"


Still on the photography high...sigh. Wish I could keep going with my current class and teacher but I can't at the moment (bigger tasks await). I really want to learn more about Black and White Photography and take some lessons on photographing interiors. At the moment I can't get the result that I want as I shoot our apartment here in Singapore. We get A LOT of light in the living area and I just can't seem to set up the camera manually. These are shots from pre-course days with just the auto mode and the kick of regular flash. Ugh.













Wish me luck on the days to come! I will attempt and re-attempt to get this right.
xoxo,
Betty


Painting with Lights

Last night was my last night of a five week photography course with Karen Lucas from Baobab Photography in Singapore. I enjoyed the lessons, exercises and saying to my love ones that I had "homework" to do. It has been a long time since I have taken a course of any kind or stepped into an organized lesson...for just me. I have to say that although the experience was challenging and left me on most nights with tired eyes and tension headaches, it was also fulfilling and cool. Here are some shots from last night. We went out to the busy Novena neighborhood and drew lots of attention with our crew of 8 plus tripods! We chatted and I noticed my peers and I taking shots in the most laid-back, confident manner; just like school kids on a field trip ready to start summer vacation. I will put some of the "best" (but could be better) shots from the course soon.






Deuce

There is no question that it will rain at least once a day here in Singapore. It could be really early in the morning (just as Jose is walking to the bus) or late at night and waking little Diego.
But it is only a quick downpour that we come to expect daily and Singaporeans go on with their island living. We see people play volleyball on the beach, riding bikes, or swimming. Everyone seems to be really healthy and fit. So Jose and I decided we would take advantage of the year-round summer weather and learn to play tennis.

Last night was our first lesson here in our building (sounds really posh but every building in Singapore has at least one court) and it didn't go TOO bad! We thought this activity would be a cool way of spicing things up without it always including a drink or two. Every Tuesday will now be tennis/date night.

After the first 15 minutes I thought maybe we should stick to dinner and drinks. I didn't start off that great and felt so clumsy. Those of you who know me know why I stuck to Cross Country in high school...only individual sports for me thank you. Tennis is a lot harder than it looks!! But after our first drill, Jose was talking like he was Pete Sampras. He kept interrupting the coach and telling me what he thought I should do! Of course I was so annoyed but didn't want to say anything in front of the coach...yet. I knew Jose would continue and finally I told him to stop. I yelled, "We have a coach Jose, let him do his job!" So I didn't hear from Jose again. Everytime we had an individual drill as a one-one-one with the coach, Jose would go off and really not pay any attention to me. Once I started to get the hang of things, I turned to see if Jose was watching my improvement but he wasn' t looking. He was off hitting the ball against the wall. Clearly, I was annoyed again. I wanted to show him that I was having fun but it was too late because I embarrassed him and made him feel bad when all he wanted to do was help. We talked as we picked up the balls.

Not only did the coach show us how to properly hold the racket and how to tap the ball but he also had a few words at the end of the lesson that I believe is good for tennis beginners and relationships:
"Be gentle and patient."
"If you deliver it well, she will return it."
"Ladies like it when you start off slow and the rhythm will be natural."
"Play easy and don't be to hard on each other."
and my favorite...
"Keep practicing...the more you do something, the better it gets."

Even if we suck at tennis I know we don't suck at our relationship. And I'm not going to give up on either. As a plus for both of us, Jose promised I could get a cute tennis skirt AFTER we learn to play a real game.
Wink,
Betty

Ahora si, pelo bueno


A lifetime ago I joined the super talented and super sexy lunaticas of Teatro Luna in Chicago. We did an amazing piece for The Maria Chronicles that was developed by the girls of TL for a previous performance. The piece was called "Pelo Bueno Pelo Malo".


I never understood the phrase "pelo malo" or "bad hair" as a generic stereotype for Latina women of color. As a Mexican woman with fair skin, my hair was never the topic of any conversation in my family. So according to the TL girls, I learned that I had "pelo bueno".


I think that it would make the girls of Teatro Luna laugh to know that what we considered to be "pelo bueno" in Singapore it's actually "pelo malo". Such bad, frizzy hair and always in a ponytail, this Mexican girl couldn't find a solution to help with the intense humidity and heat. But then an Irish friend stated she was going to the hair salon to get her hair permanently straightened. I couldn't believe it! My Japanese friend told me that it was true. She said I would come out of the shower, comb it and be done! I could have perfectly straigth hair all the time despite the 90 percent humidity days.


So yes, I decided I was going to go Asian and have beautiful and straight and shiny hair like the Singaporeans, Koreans, Chinese and Japanese. And so I'm sitting next to my friend Roisin at the hair salon and 5 hours later (and 355 Sing dollars) I have "pelo bueno" again! I laughed and looked around, I'm sure I was the only Latina in this "western" hair salon. But I didn't care. I know who I am and I know I don't want to walk around with frizzy hair anymore.


Working with the girls at Teatro Luna taught me so much about everything. Compassion, awareness, similarities and differences. Compassion for the women and stories that they shared, awareness of cultures and "costumbres" in our Spanish speaking community. And all of that makes us the same and different. I am so quick to turn around when I hear a Spanish voice at the grocery store here in Singapore. I want to know about this person and what brought her to Asia. Con pelo bueno o malo, I know I know her.

If you're in Chicago, you have to check these ladies out! http://www.teatroluna.org/

Besos,
Betty

Mayday! Mayday!

Aahhh, the long 3 day weekend of fun, family and the usual BBQ's. It is May Day (Labor Day) weekend here in Singapore and it was...boring. Lonely actually. Lonely and a bit depressing.

On Friday we did a little lunch and shopping at Suntec City. On Saturday we did a littly lunch at Oomphatico's at Tanglin Mall where Jose ate the oysters and got food poisoning!! Today, Jose felt much better so we went off to another lunch at Canele in Raffles City Mall. You see what I see? We ate and window shopped ALL weekend long. Alone. Poor whiny Diego was not having it. We were not having it. But we did have plans. We had a birthday party to go to and were going to see the whole parent group with whom we hang out but the little boy was sick and it got cancelled. You know that if we were back home and these were all Mexicans, the party would have gone on!! "Porque hay carne asada y ordenamos el pastel!"As a matter of fact, we would have seen these Mexicans all weekend long!!!

Our other friends were off to the Philippines somewhere so they were not around and another couple had parents in town. You see, this is what happens when you live far, far away. But I promised that this blog would only be about the pleasant and positive things in life so I am not complaining. I'm just missing. Missing my people.

Positive outlook and pleasant thoughts: a great partner to keep you company when you are missing home- is all you need. We must also plan accordingly next weekend...not bragging or anything but we are going to THAILAND!!!!

Besos,
Betty